By now you will have gathered that most of the articles or stories I deliver contain many of my personal learning’s. I feel these are valuable tools for the growth, healing and overall well-being of the collective conscious.Recently I had to confront a painful issue which I thought had been put to rest.A man spoke with me of some stories being told about me which could prove to be very damaging. The person telling the stories and I had a confrontation in the past which ended in him accusing me of many things that were untrue. Even though I knew he had talked about those accusations to others I thought (or hoped) it would pita-out and I could put it to rest. At the time I really wanted to defend myself by explaining my side of the story to those people, but a sense of confidentiality along with the idea that I shouldn’t have to defend my self kept me from saying anything.Three months later it again raised its ugly head. I was shocked. This man was blaming me for something that in truth was out of my control. I felt hurt at the time and what made it even worse was that, according to my source this man was very convincing.It didn’t take me long to realise that some of my colleagues had heard the stories I wondered how many of my clients were getting word of it. I was disturbed and again I wanted desperately to defend myself. I considered taking legal action. Even though Deformation of Character is hard to prove I knew I had a good case if I wanted to pursue it. Surely this would bring it all out into the light; I could tell my side of the story and I could finally be at peace with it all.The truth really does set you freeI soon realised that it was not my character to pursue that avenue but instead I chose to see it as an opportunity for me to learn something. Asking to see the truth in this matter put my head and my heart into a tug of war for a few days. In the end that lesson popped up from right under my nose. What showed up was fear – the fear of those others actually believing this man and the fear of what they might think, say or do. With that awareness, that residue of hurt and fear came unstuck and I was left feeling very relieved.I smiled to myself when I realised I no longer gave a rip about what he or others were thinking, saying or doing. It really was none of my business. And in truth I really didn’t have any control over it. Wow what a ‘letting go’ that was.And just when I plucked up the courage to confront all of those people to put things right, I realised I didn’t really have to. I finally got it – I am not responsible for making things right because I didn’t do anything wrong in the first place. Nor am I responsible for making people feel better or happy of for keeping the peace. I am here to become aligned with peace, my better self, my true sense of happiness, and all that is right within me, and to allow that to be expressed in a way that naturally enlightens others who are ready and willing.I found that words don’t always express the truth but standing tall in my truth expresses everything.In the end, it was not by taking this person to court that I found peace. It was by finding peace in everything that I was freed from the prison of my fearful mind.So again I give thanks to the Universe for sending this man into my life for me to finally get these old-age lessons.What about the other person you may askThere is a Universal law in place that to me supersedes the legal law – laws like ‘What goes around comes around’ and ‘What you put out comes back’. I understand that hurtful words only come from people who are in fear and hurting. Loving words come only from people in love.Unfortunately for that man, those hurtful words are likely to come back to bite him on the bum. Once upon a time I would have felt sorry for him. Now I don’t because there is nothing to be sorry about, only to be at peace with. I am not sorry nor am I sad about anything any more. It’s as if all that sorriness and soreness and sadness has gone now and I am free.The good news is that if he is awake this man will find for himself that his sore bum is an opportunity to learn, to let go and to put behind him the hurt and fear he was holding on to and projecting out, and to realign with peace and love.That is my prayer for him.